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Day 1353: The relationship between Self-love, Self-respect and Crime

“Self-respect is the root of discipline: The sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to oneself.” ― Abraham Joshua Heschel

It’s 1 : 00 PM on day 1353 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to pray, brush my teeth, read Psalm 40, publish my Disability of the Day feature, feed myself bran flakes for breakfast, practice sitting up straight to strengthen my core muscles, stretch my hamstrings and promote my Eradicate AIDS campaign – still on 80% what hurts more than the lack of donations is the fact that people don’t seem to care that other people are dying of a disease that is both preventable and treatable I wonder what will become of the world if only a few of us care about people who are not our family and friends.

Yesterday morning I was thinking about the drive by shooting in California and the kidnappings of the schoolgirls in Nigeria and I asked myself what kind of people would kill and kidnap other people and answered people who don’t have self-love and self-respect if you love and respect yourself you wouldn’t give yourself permission to intentionally hurt other people because you love them as you love yourself.

Day 1076: Take care of yourself

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You have to take care of yourself first before you can take care of anybody else – that’s what I keep learning

It’s 2 : 42 PM on day 1076 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to pray, brush my teeth, feed myself boiled egg and Bran Flakes for breakfast, publish my Disability of the Day feature, go visit my granny in hospital – she’s doing so much better eating well and siting by herself I’m so happy 🙂 – and tweet and Facebook about my campaign – no one donated today but Anonymous donated $50 yesterday (thanks again Anonymous) now I only need to raise $110 in the next 52 days to reach goal

Last night I realized if I wanted to make a difference for the rest of my life I had to take care of myself so I shut down the laptop and got a good night’s sleep usually I stay up late promoting my campaign and doing other stuff from today onwards I’m going sleep well, eat well and exercise when I can because if I’m not the best of myself I can’t give the best of myself to the world. Do you put everybody else first and yourself last?

Day 339

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Some lessons need to be reinforced – that’s what I learned today 🙂

It’s 7: 08 PM on day 339 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself an avocado sandwich for breakfast, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign – no luck – compile a post for Youth Voices–a section of NorthFork Collective Voices headed by my friend, Mark McKinney –prepare my Kid of the Week feature for Sunday– this week’s Kid of the Week and I have something in common…she’s South African – visit my two of my favorite blogs–Jude: The diary of a baby and a stroke and Bird on the Street –edit the header and About page off this blog– I felt like the default header was totally unrelated to this blog unlike the current header what do you think? – feed myself stir-fry for lunch, watch TV, feed myself pasta and chicken for dinner and brush my teeth once more.

Today while I was in the bathroom I heard my father talking to my sister about school and what was going on and I found myself being very sad – most of the time when we talk he’s like yes Nisha what do you need almost like I’m a nuisance or something – which I found a little strange considering the fact that I thought I had accepted myself enough to be okay with the fact that my family would never love me the way I want them to I guess it just goes to show that all the things you need in life e.g. self-acceptance, self-love need to be worked at every day. Are you the kind of person who needs to learn something more than once to get it through your thick skull?

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

If you’ve given to my cause or you can’t give now, please help me by sharing my cause with others. You can tweet about it like my friend Stan Faryna. This is the tweet he uses: @Nisha360 is a brave, smart young woman trying to make a better world for us all. Please help her do an amazing thing. http://bit.ly/hC7vOu

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 288

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You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge. – Dr. Phil C. McGraw

It’s 8: 35 PM on day 288 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign – no luck 🙁 – read Love That Max and Ryn’s Tale Book of Days: Livin to the point of tears – my goodness there are some FANTASTIC parents out there 🙂 – watch TV while feeding myself an egg sandwich for brunch, watch some TV while exercising, publish My Book Self – a new page on this blog which will feature all the books that I can remember reading over the course of my twenty year life – feed myself rice and curry for dinnerand brush my teeth once more.

Yesterday evening while I was editing and adding new books to My Book Shelf I couldn’t help but notice that all but four of the books that I had ever read were romance novels and in that moment I had an epiphany I was looking for love in guys – both fictional and real – because I did not feel loved by father and to remedy that I told myself what I wished my father had told me you’re beautiful I am so proud of you. Are you in denial about what you need?

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 209

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Subdue your passion or it will subdue you. – Horace

It’s 10: 00 PM on day 209 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself rice and curry for brunch, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign for a few hours – no luck – feed myself bread and peas curry for dinner and tweet about my campaign some more – still no luck.

Today as I was lying on my bed tweeting about my campaign in excruciating pain I came to the realization that nothing, not even the betterment of the world was worth sacrificing myself over with that said although I will still work hard for my campaign and feeding scheme my first priority is to gain independence from my parents and become more whole as a human being because at the end of the day I am of no use to the world if I’m empty. Is your passion slowly killing you?

Day 180

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Guys are overrated – that’s what I learned today 🙂

It’s 11: 11 PM on day 180 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself Chapati – an unleavened flatbread – vegetable curry for breakfast, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign for a few hours – no luck – feed myself rice and curry for lunch, tweet about my campaign some more – @Pitbull1970 (Al) made a $6 – thanks Al 🙂 – start reading book Sea of Miracles by Amy Oscar (@AmyOscar on Twitter) – I haven’t read much of it but I could really relate to the parts I did read 🙂 – watch the Cricket World Cup match: South Africa vs. India – it was a close match but congratulations to The Proteas – our national cricket team – who beat India in India – it was the funniest thing my mother, my father and my brother were supporting India while I was supporting South Africa LOL 🙂 – feed myself Batura – deep fried bread – for dinner and watch Aquamarine – a coming-of-age movie about a mermaid – I had watched it about a hundred times before but my sister insisted that we watch it again and I didn’t have the heart to say no – I’m a total pushover when it comes to family 🙂

As you may or may not know I do not date because in my culture dating is prohibited until such a time that you are ready to settle down and have a family and although it used to bother me when I was younger looking back on it now I realize that not being able to date has forced me to love myself from the inside out so I guess that’s one thing my parents did right – thanks mom and dad. Do you seek love from the opposite sex because you don’t love yourself?