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Day 229

You’ve gotta cut people some slack sometimes – that’s what I learned today 🙂

It’s 9: 05 PM on day 229 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself bread and scrambled eggs for breakfast, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign – no luck –prepare my Kid of the Week feature – this week’s edition tugged at my heartstrings and proved to me that it’s never too late or too early to start making a difference 🙂 – feed myself rice and curry for lunch, tweet about my campaign some more – still no luck 🙁 –play some board games and card games with my siblings and guests – it was SO much fun 🙂 – feed myself a bread and jam sandwich for dinner and watch TV.

Today some people came to visit and it wasn’t until they left that it occurred to me that the adults barely spoke a complete sentence to me and in that moment I realized that people don’t know how to interact with disabled people without being awkward about it so I decided to give you some pointers on how to behave around the forgotten members of society:

Do’s and Don’ts of Dealing with Disabled People

  • Make eye contact
  • Smile
  • If you don’t know what interests him/her then just ask
  • Don’t talk about him/her talk to them. For instance, if you’re wondering if he/she wants juice ask him/her and not whoever is with him/her
  • Don’t make assumptions about his/her capabilities if you’re unsure about whether he/she can do something just ask

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

If you’ve given to my cause or you can’t give now, please help me by sharing my cause with others. You can tweet about it like my friend Stan Faryna. This is the tweet he uses: @Nisha360 is a brave, smart young woman trying to make a better world for us all. Please help her do an amazing thing. http://www.firstgiving.com/fundraiser/nisha-varghese/nishavarghese

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 228

You can love people you’ve never met – that’s what I learned today 🙂

It’s 7: 46 PM on day 228 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, watch the royal wedding – it was a real life fairytale I have never seen anything like it 🙂 – feed myself rice and curry for lunch, go to physiotherapy – it was PAINFUL but it’s my own fault I didn’t exercise as much as I should have in the past two weeks – watch some more TV, feed myself grilled chicken for dinner and tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign – no luck.

As you know a ten-year-old boy by the name of Brennan Daigle has found a special place in my heart and quite recently Brigaders – that’s what Brennan’s fans call themselves on Brennan’s Facebook page, Brennan’s Brigade – raised enough money to make Brennan’s dream of owning a truck come true which in itself meant so much to me but today Kay – a fellow Brigader – told me that she signed the truck on my behalf and in that moment I almost cried not because she signed the truck but because she thought of me. Take a look at the mark I made from all the way across the ocean:

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

If you’ve given to my cause or you can’t give now, please help me by sharing my cause with others. You can tweet about it like my friend Stan Faryna. This is the tweet he uses: @Nisha360 is a brave, smart young woman trying to make a better world for us all. Please help her do an amazing thing. http://www.firstgiving.com/nishavarghese

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 227

It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver. – Mohandas Gandhi

It’s 7: 23 PM on day 227 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to continue reading A Purloined Life – the first of two books in Stella Cameron‘s Charmedtweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign@mysunderstood74 (M) made her second donation – thanks M it’s people like you that make me want to get up every morning and do this all over again 🙂 – brush my teeth, vote for Hands on in Africa – a great project that my friend,@SophieBrown95 (Sophie), is involved in that aims to teach kids in the UK social responsibly while providing kids in Africa an education feed myselfParottaa common layered flat bread of Southern India – and beef curry for breakfast, tweet about my campaign some more – no further luck – watch TV while and after feeding myself strawberry yoghurt for lunch, went to visit my cousin and her family, feed myself chicken nuggets and nuggets and French fries from McDonald’s for dinner and watch some more TV.

Today I stumbled onto Power 9: Habits of the World’s Healthiest People and as I read it I realized that people who live the longest are balanced in all aspects of their lives. Read the article below and you’ll catch my drift:

Power9: 9 Habits of the World’s Healthiest People

by Healthy Theory

The United States is facing a health crisis of unprecedented proportions: Two-thirds of Americans are overweight or obese. Diabetes and heart disease rates are on the rise. For the first time in living history, the life expectancy of America’s children is less than that of their parents.

In other parts of the world, however, people are living longer, healthier lives. In certain areas known as Blue Zones, people tend to live well into their 90s and beyond while remaining mentally and physically vibrant. It’s no coincidence that people in these regions share several lifestyle traits.

The Blue Zones

  1. Sardinia, Italy: a mountain village where researchers encountered a 102-year-old man who hikes at least 6 miles a day.
  2. Okinawa, Japan: home to some of the world’s longest-lived people.
  3. Loma Linda, California: where a group of Seventh Day Adventists commonly live to 100 years old and enjoy more healthy years of life than the rest of the United States.
  4. Icaria, Greece: a tiny island with 20 percent lower rates of cancer, 50 percent lower rates of heart disease, and almost no dementia.
  5. Nicoya Peninsula, Costa Rica: where residents enjoy lower levels of obesity and longer lives than the rest of Costa Rica.

Dan Buettner, explorer and writer for National Geographic, has worked with longevity researchers to identify the habits that allow Blue Zone inhabitants to reach the age of 100 at ten times greater rates than most of the United States, while suffering a mere fraction the rate of heart disease and cancer as the rest of the world.

The key to living longer, fuller lives, says Buettner, is to create an environment of health. Science has determined that less than 25% of a person’s lifespan is determined by genes. The rest can be influenced by lifestyle factors.

Healthy Lifestyle Habits

Buettner and his team of researchers have identified nine lifestyle factors common among Blue Zone inhabitants, all of which are associated with an extra 3-6 years of quality life. The secret to vitality and longevity is incorporating these habits into your daily life. Adopting all nine of these habits — known as the Power9 — is not necessary to experience the benefits of increased health and longevity; according to Buettner, practicing just six of the Power9 will deliver 90% of the benefits. His book, The Blue Zones: Lessons for Living Longer From the People Who’ve Lived the Longest, provides practical guidelines for setting up your home, your social life, and your work place to help add more quality years to your life.

Surprisingly, only one of the Power9 deals with exercise, and a full third involve social factors. In fact, says Buettner, the single most important thing you can do is extend your life is to build your own “Right Tribe.” The world’s longest-lived people were either born into or choose to associate with the right people — those who provide emotional support and the motivation to engage in healthy activities. Research shows that if you surround yourself with people who are active and eat healthy foods, you are more likely to adopt these habits yourself.

The Power9

1. Move naturally

Find ways to move mindlessly and adopt a lifestyle that makes moving unavoidable. In many Blue Zones, walking is the main mode of transportation. People also engage in some sort of moderate daily activity such as gardening, walking, or playing with their children. Buettner believes that many Americans exercise too hard; our bodies were not made to withstand years of heavy pounding and high-intensity physical activity. Regular, low-intensity activity — doing something light every day — may be more beneficial. Focus on activities you enjoy — even something as seemingly simple as a daily walk can provide health benefits.

2. Know your purpose in life

Having a meaningful reason to get out of bed in the morning can help reduce stress and ward off disease. Studies show that people who retire early often see a decline in their health and even experience higher mortality rates than those who continue to work. If you enjoy your job, keep working as long as possible. Volunteer work and community service can also help provide a sense of purpose.

3. Downshift

People in Blue Zones typically have less stress in their lives. Look for ways to simplify your life: slow down, get plenty of rest, and take vacations. Try to punctuate your day with periods of calm, whether that means meditating, taking a relaxing bath, or carving out some time for yourself to engage in a hobby.

4. Follow the 80% Rule

As Americans, we’re used to eating until we’re full, but allowing yourself to feel hunger can actually be beneficial. A study involving mice revealed that the appetite-stimulating hormone ghrelin may help fight stress and depression. People in Blue Zones typically stop eating when they are 80% full. Buettner’s book and the Blue Zone web site provide advice on adopting healthier eating habits.

5. Eat a plant-based diet

People in Blue Zones don’t diet; they eat wisely. Blue Zone diets consist of large amounts of locally grown vegetables and less protein than the average American diet. Limit processed foods, meats, fats, and sweets as much as possible. Also drink plenty of fresh water and herbal teas. In Icaria, residents drink high levels of herbal teas that act as diuretics, lower blood pressure, and prevent heart disease.

6. Drink red wine

Red wine is high in powerful antioxidants that can help fight cancer, reduce inflammation, and lower cholesterol. In Sardinia, researchers found a red wine with the world’s highest-known levels of antioxidants. Drink red wine consistently and in moderation — a glass or two a day is recommended.

7. Belong to a healthy social network

Having a strong and supportive social system is key to reducing stress and living a healthy life. There is a biological link between social connection and how well our bodies function. Fifteen years ago, the average American had three good friends; that number is now down to two. Our increasingly wired society and busy lifestyles have made us more isolated, which can shave years off our lives. Make an effort to spend time with friends and nurture a face-to-face network instead of just connecting with people online. Proactively build friendships with people who practice healthy habits. Participating in social exercise groups or volunteering are great ways to meet healthy, like-minded individuals.

8. Have a belief system

Having some sort of faith system or spiritual practice has been shown to have health benefits. Participating in a belief system doesn’t have to mean organized religion: Okinawans believe in ancestral worship; yoga and meditation are also forms of non-religious spiritual practices. “People who feel their life is part of a larger plan and are guided by their spiritual values have stronger immune systems, lower blood pressure, a lower risk of heart attack and cancer, and heal faster and live longer,” says Harold G. Koenig, M.D., professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at Duke University Medical Center.

9. Put your family first

People in Blue Zones make family a priority and nurture supportive relationships with their loved ones. Studies have shown that the average working American parent spends just 19 minutes a day engaged in childcare. As you work on simplifying your routine, look for new, beneficial activities you can do with your children and extended family members. Complete a craft project together, get the family together for a bike ride, or involve the children in making dinner and choosing healthy foods for the family.


Day 226

Whenever I found out anything remarkable, I have thought it my duty to put down my discovery on paper, so that all ingenious people might be informed thereof. – Antonie van Leeuwenhoek

It’s 7: 50 PM on day 226 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself a sweet potato and chutney for breakfast, listen to music, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign for a few hours – no luck – start reading A Purloined Life – the first of two books in Stella Cameron’s Charmed – feed myself rice and curry for lunch, watch TV, feed myself rice and curry for dinner and tweet about my campaign some more – still no luck 🙁

My brother once told me that sharing was caring and since I care so much for all of you I would like to share with you my latest obsession, Jake Coco – a twenty-six-year-old who reflects God every time he opens his mouth to sing. Take a look:

Day 224

Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much. – Helen Keller

It’s 9: 26 PM on day 224 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself  an egg sandwich for breakfast, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign for a few hours – no luck – feed myself rice and curry for lunch, tweet about my campaign some more – no luck – feed myself rice and curry for dinner and continue to tweet about my campaign – still no luck damn it this is so frustrating.

As you know I love helping people because I believe that we owe it to those who are no longer with us to be the difference in the lives of others which is why I’m asking you to find a need in your community and fulfil it together with your loved ones. Do you choose to do little things individually or great things collectively?

Day 222

The only way to survive in this life is to accept it the way it is – that’s what I learned today 🙁

It’s 6: 47 PM on day 222 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign for a few hours – no luck – watch a few Youtube videos – Christina Grimmie #5 on my ‘10 Most Talented Youtubers’ list (if you have no idea what I am talking about refer to ‘Day 159’) will be touring with Selena Gomez during the American summer – I am SO for her 🙂 – feed myself rice and curry for lunch and tweet about my campaign some more – still no luck God knows it’s not for a lack of trying 🙂 – feed myself rice and curry for dinner, continue to tweet about my campaign – today is just not my day hopefully someone will take pity on me and donate after I go to sleep LOL 🙂 – and watch TV

This morning my aunt called from Kuwait and I heard her say to my mom if you’re planning on going back to India after you retire you should buy a flat in Ernakulam –the western part of the mainland of Kochi city in Kerala, India – there no one will say anything if you bring Nisha and at first I felt like a freak then I was outraged by the fact that she thought I was going to live with my parents forever considering I planned to make my own money, get married and have kids but after a couple of hours had passed I realized that I had to find a way to deal with the fact that most people would always discriminate against me. Are you resisting the circumstances of your life thereby making it more difficult for yourself to survive?

Day 221

Happiness comes from within. It is not dependent on external things or on other people. You become vulnerable and can be easily hurt when your feelings of security and happiness depend on the behaviour and actions of other people. Never give your power to anyone else.
— Brian Weiss

It’s 9: 18 PM on day 221 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself a banana for breakfast, go to the Good Friday Service – the sermon was about the last words Jesus uttered on the cross and how he taught and lived forgiveness – watch TV, feed myself Batura – deep fried bread – for lunch, send a friend of mine a donation request on Facebook – still waiting for a response… fingers-crossed 🙂 – tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign for a few hours – no luck – feed myself custard for dinner and tweet about my campaign some more – still no luck but hey I gave my all 🙂

Today I woke up happy and free even though my father refused to go to church with us because I knew that what he did or didn’t do had nothing to do with me. Are things out of your control causing you misery?

Day 219

Sometimes that mountain you’ve been climbing is just a grain of sand, and what you’ve been up there searching for forever, is in your hands. When you figure out love is all that matters after all it sure makes everything else seem so small. — Carrie Underwood

It’s 10: 32 PM on day 219 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself a banana for breakfast, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign for a few hours – @mysunderstood74 (M) made a donation even before I woke up – thanks M it was a nice surprise 🙂 – feed myself rice and curry for lunch, prepare my Kid of the Week feature which will make its debut this Sunday – this feature was originally meant only for teens and was called Teen of the Week but I struggled to find teens who were making a difference so I decided to feature the kids that my good friend, @laurajteacheroz (Laura), introduced me to – thanks a million Laura 🙂 – watch TV, feed myself two bananas for dinner and tweet about my campaign – no further luck.

As you know Prince William and Kate Middleton are getting married on the 29th of April and although I think it’s ridiculous that their wedding is going to be broadcast worldwide when there are more pressing issues at hand I would like to wish them a happy married life because I believe that everybody – royal or not – deserves a chance to love and be loved. Have you climbed the mountain only to find that you already had what you’ve been searching for?

Day 218

Art imitates life – that’s what I learned today 🙂

It’s 9: 34 PM on day 218 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, watch TV, feed myself a bread and jam sandwich for lunch – I was supposed to eat it for breakfast but my mom never found out so no harm no foul LOL 🙂 – promote my campaign on Facebook –no luck – feed myself a banana for dinner, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign – still no luck – and continue reading Boundary Lines – the second book in Engaging The Enemy by Nora Roberts.

Today I was watching Cashmere Mafia –a show about four best friends trying to balance their personal and professional lives – and there was this one particular scene that really struck a chord with me, Juliet – one of the main characters in the show – was getting ready for bed while her adulterer husband, Davis, was trying so hard to connect with her only she took that opportunity to hurt him as much as he hurt her by turning away from him – literally – and in that moment I realized in horror that I was Juliet in that once someone hurt me I froze them out completely. Do you look to art to feel less alone or to discover things you’ve never known?

Day 217

Generosity is giving more than you can, and pride is taking less than you need. – Khalil Gibran

It’s 9: 59 PM on day 217 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself a bread and jam sandwich for breakfast, watch TV, listen to music – I love Keith Urban’s songs because truly we all live in this world and all of us can relate to love, hate, pain and heartbreak 🙂 – feed myself rice and curry for lunch, watch some more TV, continue reading Boundary Lines – the second book in Engaging The Enemy by Nora Roberts, feed myself noodles and vegetable curry for dinner, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign and read some more.

This morning as soon as our housekeeper came into work I was like an excited toddler I asked were the sandwiches enough to feed everybody (if you have no idea what I’m talking about refer to ‘Day 215’) and she replied smiling at my enthusiasm yes, they were and they said to tell you thank you and I just stared at her not knowing how to respond to gratitude they told me to take a photo of you because they want to see what you look like she finished as she went off to do house work and in that moment the frustration I felt on Saturday while making the sandwiches seemed insignificant compared to the joy I felt knowing that those sandwiches meant so much to them. Are you generous in spirit?