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Life looks a lot different from someone else’s point of view – that’s what I learned today 🙂

It’s 7: 46 PM on day 256 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign –no luck – feed myself a polony sandwich for breakfast, exercise for a few hours, rest for a few hours – the power was out – watch TV, feed myself rice and curry for lunch, rest some more – I had a headache 🙁 – and brush my teeth once more.

As you know my mother and I have our ups and downs but today as I read Those Special Needs Mothers proud moments by Ellen (see excerpt below) – an American mother who has a son with Cerebral Palsy – I saw life through her eyes and I began to cry because although I often told my mother she was being too overbearing I never once told her that she had done enough so from this moment on I will hear my mother’s words with love and react accordingly. Are you in constant conflict with those you love because you can’t put yourself their shoes for a little while?

For most of life, I’m too busy doing things—or too immersed in worries—to give myself props for mommy-ing Max. Actually, the same is true for mommy-ing Sabrina, who comes with her her own challenges (most of which involve a stubborn streak the size of Texas). But Max gives me a certain kind of parenting insecurity. Plenty of times, I’m just not convinced I’m doing the right thing or helping him as much as I can (and I suspect I am not alone here in feeling this way about my child). I swear, I’d like my tombstone to read “She did enough.”

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if you’ve given to my cause or you can’t give now, please help me by sharing my cause with others. You can tweet about it like my friend Stan Faryna. This is the tweet he uses: @Nisha360 is a brave, smart young woman trying to make a better world for us all. Please help her do an amazing thing. http://bit.ly/hC7vOu

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 250

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Love doesn’t hurt. – Oprah Winfrey

It’s 6: 57 PM on day 250 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself a bread and chicken curry for breakfast, watch TV – a huge shoutout to Bridgit Mendler & Co of Lemonade Mouth – a movie about owning who you are standing up for what you believe in–you guys did a great job 🙂 – tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign –no luck – feed myself rice and carry for lunch, tweet about my campaign some more – no luck – feed myself Chapati and chicken curry for dinner and continue to tweet and Facebook about campaign – still no luck 🙁

Today my mom and dad were arguing and when he had left she said something along the lines of why does he care so much about other people he’s got a sick child – me – and another one about to go off to university soon and by that time I had already had it up to here with my mom because I realized that no matter what I did with my life I would always be the “sick” child in her eyes and you know what all I have to say to that there’s more to being a mother than taking me to the bathroom and serving me three meals a day sometimes I just need to know that you love me for who I am and not who I could have been. Is your version of love wounding your children?

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://www.twitter.com/nisha360

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 208

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It doesn’t matter how old you get what you parents say will always hurt – that’s what I learned today 🙂

It’s 9: 55 PM on day 208 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself bun and baked beans for breakfast, make sandwiches for people in my housekeeper’s community (if you have no idea what I’m talking about refer to ‘Day 184’ ) – everything went off without a hitch I guess it’s true what they say there’s a first time for everything LOL 🙂 – tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign for a few hours – no luck – feed myself rice and curry for lunch, listen to music, watch TV, feed myself Chapati – an unleavened flatbread – and tomato chutney for dinner and tweet about my campaign some more – still no luck.

Today my mom and I got into an argument and although I don’t remember what it was about I will never forget feeling like a ten-year-old in a twenty-year-olds body when she said all you have to do is lie around. Do you inadvertently hurt your children with your tongue?

Day 205

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The man who doesn’t read good books has no advantage over the man who can’t read them. – Mark Twain

It’s 9: 51 PM on day 205 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself Uppumavu – an Indian dish made of rava. The name is an amalgam of two words : “salt” and “flour – and bananas for breakfast, semi-undress myself – I was so happy when I got my left-hand out of the sleeve of my shirt and I know I could’ve taken my whole shirt off had my mother not barged into bathroom and insisted on doing it for me I’ve got to make her understand that even although I don’t need her help as much as I used to I would always need her – tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign for a few hours – no luck – feed myself rice and curry for lunch, watch TV, feed myself Chapati – an unleavened flatbread – and baked beans for dinner and continue reading Engaging The Enemy by Nora Roberts – I started reading it on vacation and I have to say reading a 2-in-1 book isn’t as weird as I thought it would be 🙂

Today lying on my bed with a book in hand it occurred to me that reading gives birth to empathy with that said I would like to invite you to participate in my 38-Week Reading Challenge all you have to do is read one book for every week that is left in 2011. Are you an illiterate who can read?

Day 187

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People who feel insecure within themselves will try to tear you down – that’s what I learned today 🙁

It’s 10: 58 PM on day 187 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, make sandwiches for the people in our housekeeper’s neighborhood (if you have no idea what I am talking about refer to ‘Day 184’) – it was a relatively drama-free morning with the only snag being that there wasn’t enough foil paper but that too was not a problem without a solution we decided to stack the sandwiches on top of each other – a HUGE thanks must go to mom who helped me every step of the way – I LOVE you mommy 🙂 – feed myself a bread and jam sandwich for breakfast while watching TV – food tastes better when you eat after you give to other people 🙂 – feed myself rice and curry for lunch and tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign only stopping to feed myself Spring rolls for dinner – @sharoneden (Sharon) made a donation of $53.85 – thanks again Sharon 🙂

Today as I sat at our dining table buttering the bread for the sandwiches my mom and I were making my dad came up behind me and said why don’t you do two first and in that moment he made me feel so incompetent so I said if you’re not doing anything shut up and although I don’t regret saying it I do regret the way I said it because those words were unbecoming of me. Are your insecurities causing you to be mean?

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