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Going Into Battle For My Mommy’s Right To A Life Outside Of Me

Some people want to know what’s going on in your life so they can judge not help– that’s what I’ve realized

Today I was somewhere and the women there were very curious when my mother was returning and how we were coping I tried to be as polite as possible but the undertone of judgement with which the questions were asked really irritated me especially since nobody asked anything of my father (patriarchy is real). I don’t expect my mother to be tied to me every day of her life but apparently the rest of the world does I will fight for my mom’s right to have a life outside of me she must live, truly be happy and in so doing be an example to all us kids

Day 3070: Happy Birthday Daddy

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“Of all the titles I’ve been privileged to have, ‘Dad’ has always been the best.” ―Ken Norton

It’s 5: 31 PM on day 3070 since I started blogging and I managed to pray, read a Bible verse, go to church and spend time with family.

On this day many moons ago a boy was born who grew up to be a great many things but perhaps the most important thing he became was a father to me and my siblings. Happy Birthday Daddy I will always be a bleeding heart but if that’s your biggest worry as a father you have done extraordinarily well at this fatherhood thing – thank you for teaching me generosity by your example.

Day 3056: A Family Tradition Fulfilled And Appreciating Everybody

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Be present in every moment for one day everyone in your life will be but a memory– that’s my message to the world

It’s 5: 37 PM on day 3056 since I started blogging and I managed to pray, read a Bible verse, spend time outside and do some work

Today in celebration of my sister’s first salary she took the whole extended family out to lunch – it’s tradition in our family to do so and most of my cousins have done it – it was such a special lunch it was so adorable seeing her pull out her credit card and type her digits what made the moment even more significant was remembering that one day most of the people I was surrounded by would live in my memory I treasure all my time with family

Day 2934: 24 Years Ago Today

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“For there is no friend like a sister in calm or stormy weather; To cheer one on the tedious way, to fetch one if one goes astray, to lift one if one totters down, to strengthen whilst one stands. “ -Christina Rossetti

It’s 1 : 00 PM on day 2934 of my journey towards independence and I managed to pray, read a Bible verse and do some work

On this day 24 years ago my parents brought into this world a baby girl and my life has been richer ever since so much laughter, light and the occasional tiff or two but through it all through it all there was, is and always will be an undercurrent of love that keeps us together. Happy Birthday Neethu I won the sister lottery the day you were born (I hope you feel the same) thank you for always cheering for me even when you know it’s crazy to do so.

Day 2886: Happy Birthday Baby Brother

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“ Brothers and sisters are as close as hands and feet.”– Vietnamese Proverb

It’s 11 : 51 AM on day 2886 of my journey towards independence and I managed to pray, read a Bible verse, spend time outside and do some work

On this day 18 years ago my brother was born and our family was complete I’m so honoured to such a kind and gentle soul for a brother (i’ll never forget watching him comb our grandmother’s hair and giving her biscuits – a testament to his innate kindness and gentle spirit). Happy Birthday Kevin – Keep your gentle spirit as you enter into adulthood, believe in God and yourself and NEVER GIVE UP!

Day 2869: Love Me As I Am

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People just want to know you love them for who and what they are not who or what they could possibly become – that’s what I’ve realized

It’s 12 : 02 PM on day 2869 of my journey towards independence and I managed to pray, read a Bible verse and do some work.

Recently I had an interesting conversation with mom in which I told despite her hopes and prayers I would never walk because that was not God’s plan for me and in that moment I realized that all I wanted was for people to love me as I was not for who or what I could possibly become

Day 2814: Beautiful Interruptions

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“Family is not an important thing. It’s everything.” – Michael J. Fox

It’s 11 : 59 AM on day 2814 of my journey towards independence and I managed to pray, spend time outside, read a Bible verse and promote my 50 New Feet Campaign benefiting MiracleFeet – raised $14 469 only $4 281 more to raise by June 17, 2018 to reach my new goal of helping 75 kids with Clubfoot by June 17, 2018.

Today I had my dad all planned out but cue beautiful interruptions it’s okay I love my family and I always have time for them because in the beginning, middle and end love is all that matters

Day 2798: My Attempt At Being Selfless

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Nothing in life is constant except change– that’s what I’ve realized.

It’s 11: 49 AM on day 2798 of my journey towards independence and I managed to pray, read a Bible verse, have breakfast and promote my 50 New Feet Campaign benefiting MiracleFeet – raised $14 469 only $4 281 more to raise by June 17, 2018 to reach my new goal of helping 75 kids with Clubfoot by June 17, 2018.

Yesterday my mom received a call from my aunt in india saying gran has taken a turn for the worse (she’s better now but the ticket is already booked) so my mom is headed to india this evening for two weeks it will just be my dad, my brother and I with our helper helping during the day and well into the evening (dear God may I not have any gender-specific issues or stomach issues during the nights the embarrassment would kill me) it’s going to be hard for me but my mom had a nuclear family before my existence I would be selfish if I asked her not to go to help them and selfish is something I strive not to be selfless is my goal.

Day 2791: Creating a New Legacy

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Speak your heart even when it makes some uncomfortable – that’s my message to the world

It’s 12 : 45 PM on day 2791 of my journey towards independence and I managed to pray, read a Bible verse, have breakfast and promote my 50 New Feet Campaign benefiting MiracleFeet – A HUGE thanks to Anonymous who donated $25 which brings the total raised to $14 434 only $4 316 more to raise by June 17, 2018 to reach my new goal of helping 75 kids with Clubfoot by June 17, 2018.

Recently I was on the phone with my sister and I said to her I’m really proud of the work you’re doing (she was on a road trip with her medical school classmates providing healthcare and education to people in the rural areas) the poor thing didn’t know how to respond she shrugged and said um okay we’re not very affectionate with our words in our family so I understood her response but ever since my surgery whenever I feel something good I want to say it because life’s too short not to I want to create a new family legacy where people can say and receive words like I love you and I’m so proud of you without feeling uncomfortable.

Day 2787: Sweet Memories Made Playing Memory

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It’s the little things that show a person’s heart – that’s what I’ve realized.

It’s 12 : 30 PM on day 2784 of my journey towards independence and I managed to pray, read Revelation 4:8, have breakfast and promote my 50 New Feet Campaign benefiting MiracleFeet – raised $14 409 only $4 341 more to raise by June 17, 2018 to reach my new goal of helping 75 kids with Clubfoot by June 17, 2018.

This morning I had a sudden flashback to a few days ago when S (my cousin’s wife) and I were playing Memory (the card game) with a family friend’s 8-year-old and S realized I wouldn’t be able to reach down to the bed to flip the cards so she arranged the cards on the table attached to my wheelchair and we all played I think her considerate action moved me so much because I could tell that she was determined that I be included which is even sweeter considering she only joined our family a few months ago (usually it takes people a while to know what to say and do around me) every time I think back to our friendly game of Memory I think of the newest Varghese and I smile because she’s sweet, she’s kind and she’s forever going to be one of us.