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Day 355

Be careful what you wish for
cause you just might get it all
you just might get it all and then some you don’t want. – Chris Daughtry

It’s 7: 12 PM on day 355 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself toast, chicken nuggets and scrambled eggs for breakfast, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign – no luck – listen to music, feed myself rice and curry for lunch, go with my father to drop my mother, brother and sister at different places, cry for a while– my mom asked my dad to carry something for her into the building that she was going into, he said no, she said if any other woman had asked you would do it and before I knew it he was lunging at her (Note to mom and dad: mommy if you have problems go see a psychiatrist I can’t be your confidant and dad I will no longer go above and beyond to protect your reputation if you choose to behave in this manner you have to be willing to deal with the consequences) – go with my father to fetch my mother, brother and sister from different places, tweet about my campaign some more–still no luck I tweeted facts about water to achieve objective #2 of my campaign to highlight the plight of those who don’t have easy access to water– feed myself an avocado sandwich for dinner and brush my teeth once more.

Last summer I wanted so badly to go to India for my cousin’s wedding and now that it’s been decided that we are going this summer I don’t know what to feel because I know that it’s going to be hard for me when I get there not just in terms of accessibility but also in terms of my father and just people in general – my father rarely takes me anywhere here in South Africa where people are exposed to and educated about disabilities I wonder how he’s going to act when we get to his home state of Kerala where people have little or no exposure to people who are different. Have you ever wished for something and got it only to wish that you had never wished for it in the first place?

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If you’ve given to my cause or you can’t give now, please help me by sharing my cause with others. You can tweet about it like my friend Stan Faryna. This is the tweet he uses: @Nisha360 is a brave, smart young woman trying to make a better world for us all. Please help her do an amazing thing. http://bit.ly/hC7vOu

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 302

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The most critical choice you’ll ever make is the one you make about what you’re going to do with this. The past is over. The future hasn’t happened yet. The only time is now. – Dr. Phil C. McGraw

It’s 7: 58 PM on day 302 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself bananas for breakfast, watch TV, feed myself Spaghetti bolognaise for lunch, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign – no luck – and go visit some friends – it was so much fun they are such funny people 🙂

Yesterday I was watching an episode of Oprah – we’re a bit behind so it still airs here – on which a nineteen-year-old boy by the name of Clayton was featured – he was severally abused up to the age of six his father urinated on him rubbed his own feces’ in his faced nd locked him up in the bathroom closet – and yet he said I treat everybody with respect even if they don’t deserve it and although I didn’t think much of it at the time this morning I woke up and I remembered the time when my father lifted the chair I was sitting on to hit my mother in victory rather than in fear because I realized that I would never be five and powerless ever again. Are you stuck in a chapter of your life with no way out?

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 197

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No matter that patriotism is too often the refuge of scoundrels. Dissent, rebellion, and all-around hell-raising remain the true duty of patriots. – Barbara Ehrenreich

It’s 10: 46 PM on day 197 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself a cheese and lettuce sandwich for breakfast, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign for a few hours – no luck – listen to music, feed myself rice and curry for lunch, hang out with my sister and cousin, feed myself rice and curry for dinner, tweet about campaign some more –still no luck – and watch The Oprah Winfrey Show – today’s episode was about Tyler Perry’s horrific childhood and although I was never abused physically or sexually I knew how he felt because every time I saw my father raise his hand to my mother or heard him call her a bitch I felt like a piece of me died 🙁

As you may know by now I LOVE South Africa with everything that I am however, I find it UNACCEPTABLE that human beings are being decapitated like animals in this beautiful country which is why I am calling on all South Africans to download Shout – a soundtrack featuring the best musicians in South Africa (see music video below) – by texting SHOUT to 33335 all the proceeds will go to various charities and causes that help in the prevention of crime as well as to help victims of crime. Do you stay silent about the challenges facing your country because you’re afraid of sounding unpatriotic?

Day 77

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You strike a woman; you strike a rock – Zulu proverb.

It’s 7: 04 PM on day 77 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself All-Bran Flakes for breakfast, learn how to calculate Integrals with Substitution – I finally understand it and can now move on to the next chapter – YAY for me! 🙂 – peeled a banana – made a huge stain on my t-shirt – attempted to take off my stained t-shirt and put on a clean one – I got my head out but our housekeeper had to help me get my arms out of the sleeves and put on a clean t0shirt when the housekeeper was helping me change I thought to myself normal people can change in and out of their clothes without thinking twice about it this is so unfair – feed myself rice and curry for lunch and exercise for 10 minutes –I am SO tired {yawn}

I have never been an abused woman but every time my father pinned my mother against the wall and raised his hand to her I felt like someone had placed a hot iron on my heart and even though it doesn’t hurt anymore I still bear the scars of my tortured childhood and that’s why I am in full support of the 16 Days of Activisms Against Gender Violence Campaign. Have you ever been burned by someone that you loved?