Love and acceptance are not necessarily a package deal – that’s what I’ve discovered.
It’s 1 : 31 PM on day 2873 of my journey towards independence and I managed to pray, read a Bible verse and do some work
A few days ago I was shocked to realize you can love people completely without being completely accepting of them… love and acceptance are not necessarily a package deal.
People just want to know you love them for who and what they are not who or what they could possibly become – that’s what I’ve realized
It’s 12 : 02 PM on day 2869 of my journey towards independence and I managed to pray, read a Bible verse and do some work.
Recently I had an interesting conversation with mom in which I told despite her hopes and prayers I would never walk because that was not God’s plan for me and in that moment I realized that all I wanted was for people to love me as I was not for who or what I could possibly become
To expect perfection from oneself is an exercise in futility– that’s what I’ve realized.
It’s 1: 07 PM on day 2561 of my journey towards independence and I managed to pray, have breakfast, read Ephesians 2:8 and promote my 50 New Feet Campaign benefiting MiracleFeet – Yesterday Liesel and Anonymous made donations (thanks so much to them) which brings the total raised to $3 481 only $9 019 more to raise by June 17, 2018 to help 50 kids with clubfoot .
Yesterday somebody asked me why I didn’t go to church and I lied saying I overslept (I know it was wrong and I still feel guilty about it) meanwhile I was up working on my 50 New Feet campaign for MiracleFeet but I didn’t want to say that because even though it was true it would have sounded like I was trying to make myself look like a saint and besides most people’s eyes just glaze over when I start talking about my work I don’t think they understand truly why I work so hard on things that I don’t get paid for.
“If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.”- Mother Teresa
It’s 12 : 00 PM on day 1451 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, go back to sleep, pray, read Psalm 139, publish my Disability of the Day feature, answer emails, stretch my hamstrings,practice sitting up straight to strengthen my core muscles, have a feet massage and hang out with my sister.
Recently I was having a chat with someone which made me realize the world’s problems would be solved if we saw each other as our people regardless of differences in race, religion, nationality or sexual orientation so from today onwards I don’t have any people no matter what race, religion, nationality or sexual orientation you are know that you are my person.
Acceptance is one of the best gifts you can give yourself – that’s what I learned today 🙂
It’s 1 : 06 PM on day 1016 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, read Deuteronomy 33, pray, publish my Disability of the Day feature, tweet and Facebook about my campaign – no luck but the day is not over yet 🙂 – practice sitting up straight to strengthen my core muscles, feed myself a boiled egg and All Bran Flakes for breakfast, practice typing with both hands and listen to music – Everything Has Changed by Taylor Swift ft.Ed Sheeran is stuck in my head sing with me people I just want to know you better know you better know you better now.
Today reading Community and Identity – a further perspective – a blog post containing a letter from Anonymous about how his/her son is less open about his Autism than he used to be because he now realizes that there’s a stigma attached to it – I realized how lucky I was to have never felt ashamed of the fact that I have Cerebral Palsy growing up I do remember not wanting to be different but I never tried to hide the fact that I had Cerebral Palsy when people would ask me why are you in a wheelchair I would answer with my head held high I have Cerebral Palsy even though I didn’t know how to explain it to people it makes me so sad to know that there are people out there who go out of their way to hide that which is different about them because I believe what makes you different makes you beautiful. Have you accepted yourself warts and all?
You’ve got to accept your struggles knowing that they are preparing you for something greater in life – that’s what I learned today 🙂
It’s 2 : 34 PM on day 969 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, publish my Disability of the Day feature, stretch my hamstrings, practice sitting up straight to strengthen my core muscles, feed myself baked beans sandwich for breakfast, take off my dirty t-shirt and put on a clean one, practice typing with both hands, pray and read Numbers 22.
This morning I was having another one of those this-is-so-unfair days sometimes I can’t help but think of the people who smoke, drink and engage in risky behaviours and wake up the next morning feeling absolutely fine meanwhile people like me who don’t smoke, drink or engage in risky behaviours have to struggle every day to do the most basic things it all seems just a little unfair but you know what this is the life I’ve been given and I’m going to do the best I can with it. Do you accept your struggles knowing that they are preparing you for something greater in life?
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There are certain things you have to accept when you have a “disability” – that’s what I learned today.
It’s 2 : 06 PM on day 933 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to stretch my hamstrings, take off my dirty t-shirt and put a clean t-shirt on, practice sitting up straight to strengthen my core muscles, brush my teeth, pray, read Leviticus 13, publish my Disability of the Day feature, practice typing with both hands, feed myself an egg sandwich for breakfast and listen to music – I love Girl at Home by Taylor Swift girls here’s some unsolicited love advice if he’s got a girl at home run don’t walk you deserve so much better than a guy who would cheat on his girlfriend eventually you’ll find someone who wants to be with you and only you 🙂
This morning struggling to type with my right hand I realized there are certain things you have to accept when you have a “disability” I will always have to work hard to do things and I won’t always be able to do things the way everybody else does that’s just the way it is wishing things were different would be a waste of all the gifts that God has given me. Have you decided to accept the things about your life that you cannot change?
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You can’t be present if you’re still holding onto the dreams of the past – that’s what I learned today 🙁
It’s 7: 25 PM on day 258 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself Batura and baked beans for breakfast, publish my Kid of the Week feature, feed myself rice and curry for lunch, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign –no luck today but Stan (@Faryna) made a donation to my cause yesterday for a record THIRD time – thanks Stan 🙂 – attend a farewell party thrown in honor of the uncle and aunty who came to visit us yesterday – they are retiring and moving back to India – it was the longest 2 hours of my life LOL 🙂 – brush my teeth once more and feed myself a banana for dinner.
Today I was in the bathroom and I said to my mother with a laugh how about what that aunty said yesterday and my mother responded what’s so funny you will be healed all you need to do is believe and it occurred to me that the reason my mother couldn’t accept me as I was, was because she still held out hope that one day I would wake up and be able to walk. Are you blind to the possibilities of the future because you’re still holding onto the dreams of the past?
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You should stop trying to get new people to see the real you and start appreciating those who already do – that’s what I learned today 🙂
It’s 8: 46 PM on day 245 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself a chicken hotdog for breakfast, tweet and Facebook about my Clean Water For All Campaign –no luck – feed myself rice and curry for lunch, tweet about my campaign some more – wow the power of prayer never ceases to amaze me @bonuschief (Frank) made a donation – thanks God and Frank 🙂 – feed myself an orange for dinner and brush my teeth once more.
Today I was reading In the inner circle, there’s no “weird” by Ellen (see excerpt below) – an American mother who has a son with Cerebral Palsy – and I realized that whenever I met new people I was trying to get them to see the real me but no more if you can accept me in the rapper that I’m in then I’ll welcome you with open arms if not, don’t let the door hit you on the way out. Do you try to get new people to like you or choose to hang out with people who already do?
I have been thinking a lot lately about how people see Max. This is not simply because I want him to fit in, so to speak. I ache for people to look beyond his disabilities and see the charming, funny, smart, complex kid I know. I want them to see Max, all of Max. Not just a child with cerebral palsy.
Then I got a grip: In the special needs community, there is no such thing as weird. For the people at the programs we go to, the teachers at Max’s school, the therapists in his life: quirky is the norm. I may have a ways to go to get the world at large to see the wonderfulness of Max. But in the inner circle of special needs that we inhabit, he is who he is—and people usually adore him for it.
Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://www.twitter.com/nisha360
if you’ve given to my cause or you can’t give now, please help me by sharing my cause with others. You can tweet about it like my friend Stan Faryna. This is the tweet he uses: @Nisha360 is a brave, smart young woman trying to make a better world for us all. Please help her do an amazing thing. http://bit.ly/hC7vOu
Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.
Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!