You should do what you know is right regardless of what anybody else says – that’s what I learned today 🙂
It’s 3: 10 PM on day 202 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself a banana for breakfast, survive a five hour road trip back to my hometown of Lusikisiki (see picture of our journey below) and eat rice and curry for lunch – I let my mother feed me just this once because I didn’t want to make a mess in my aunt’s living room.
Today when I was in the car on our road trip a friend of mine send me a text via my sister’s cell phone and my father overheard me saying to my sister tell her I got the bread and he asked what’s this about bread so I reluctantly told him that my friend and I were approaching bakeries to see if they’d be willing to donate bread to enable me to make more sandwiches for my housekeeper’s community (if you have no idea what I’m talking about refer to ‘Day 184’) and all he could think to say was I will buy the bread otherwise people will think we are eating the donated bread and in that moment I came to a maddening realization that all my father cared about was his reputation. Are you guided by other people’s opinions or your own intuition?
The opinion of others can have consequences. Sometimes, the consequences should be embraced whole-heartedly – regardless of their difficulty.
Honestly, I don’t know if this situation is a simple matter of your father’s pride or if his reputation is really at risk in a way that could have broader social and economic consequences.
Just be careful not to shoot your father in heart- every chance you get. [grin]
I will try not to [grin]
Yours truly,
Nisha