“It took me quite a long time to develop a voice, and now that I have it, I am not going to be silent.” – Madeleine Albright
Thanks Tanya Nefdt and eNCA for this feature on me and my book Different Is COOL yesterday
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Beauty is confidence – that’s my message to the world
Recently I asked the women of Twitter to show me their faces without make-up in an effort to teach little girls what true beauty is and I was blown away by the response. Take a look
Don’t dwell on those who can’t or won’t help you focus on those who do – my new rule
Today, twenty-four days into 2020, I have resolved to no longer dwell on those who can’t or won’t help me and to instead focus on those who do – I have ideas and projects all I can do is present them well if people help me implement them I will be delighted and so grateful and if not I will move on and find more people to present to I won’t spend hours dissecting why the people I thought could help me chose not to because it’s really not productive.
“Make measurable progress in reasonable time.” – Jim Rohn
As we near the end of 2019 it is again time to review the goals I set at the beginning of the year
My 2019 Life Purposes and Goals in Review
My Life’s Purposes
2019 Goals
“The bad news is time flies. The good news is you’re the pilot.” -”
― Michael Altshuler
As we prepare to enter a new decade I’ve been reflecting on what I’ve learned from the current decade
7 Lessons of the Decade
1. Tomorrow is promised to nobody
2.We are defined by WHAT WE GIVE not what we have
3.Little Things are the BIG THINGS
4.People matter most and the right ones will love you as you are
5. Kindness is the compass that will guide you to happiness
6.People will say things about you, you can believe them or YOU
7.Fear is just a feeling
Some people want to know what’s going on in your life so they can judge not help– that’s what I’ve realized
Today I was somewhere and the women there were very curious when my mother was returning and how we were coping I tried to be as polite as possible but the undertone of judgement with which the questions were asked really irritated me especially since nobody asked anything of my father (patriarchy is real). I don’t expect my mother to be tied to me every day of her life but apparently the rest of the world does I will fight for my mom’s right to have a life outside of me she must live, truly be happy and in so doing be an example to all us kids
Life is all about being able to adapt – that’s what I’ve realized
It’s 12: 58 PM on day 3192 since I started blogging and I managed to pray, read Bible, spend time outside and work on my 28 For 28 Campaign benefiting charity:water – we’ve now raised $3 188 of $28 000 with 105 days to go
The first morning without my parents almost turned into a disaster when we thought the housekeeper wasn’t showing up (my sister is a doctor and on-call today which means she won’t be home till tomorrow afternoon – our housekeeper, Amanda, will stay the night to help me) when I thought Amanda wasn’t showing up my first thought oh my god who’s going to take me to pee – my brother is here and can do most things but I couldn’t ask him to take me to the bathroom especially not while I’m on my cycle – ) the things I have to worry about are non-issues for most people when you need to go to the bathroom I bet you just get up and go without worrying that your need to go to the bathroom might be interrupting what someone else is doing if I could walk for a day that’s what I would do – go to the bathroom all by myself (I’m not even kidding that’s the one thing I ache to do I just want to go to the bathroom without bothering anyone)
The hardness of life is what make it so beautiful – that’s what I’ve realized
It’s 4: 18 PM on day 3174 since I started blogging and I managed to pray, read Bible, spend time outside and work on my 28 For 28 Campaign benefiting charity:water – we’ve now raised $2 822 of $28 000 with 32 days to go
Today as I was screaming for our housekeeper to take me to pee (she was outside) I felt again the hardness of my own life -when going to the bathroom becomes an event you know things are atypical – I’ve been told many times we can put you in a diaper, maybe pee in a bedpan, we can put you on pills to stop your period and while I do appreciate the suggestions and know they are meant to help me I won’t wear a diaper (I know when I need to go and am capable of telling people so), I won’t use a bedpan and I most certainly will not take pills to stop my period…I will fight to the death to keep my dignity and autonomy over my body
Life is made in moments not days– that’s what I have realized
It’s 1: 56 PM on day 3166 since I started blogging and I managed to pray, read Bible verse, spend time outside and work on my 28 For 28 Campaign benefiting charity:water – thanks to Joe’s $56 donation we’ve now raised $2 822 of $28 000 with 40 days to go
Today reflecting on my life I was shocked to realize I remembered specific moments not entire days. Life is made in moments not days so make beautiful moments.
It’s often small beautiful moments strung together that make life magical – that’s what I was reminded of yesterday
It’s 4: 24 PM on day 3143 since I started blogging and I managed to pray, read a Bible verse and work on my 28 For 28 Campaign benefiting charity:water – we’ve now raised $2 452 of $28 000 with 63 days to go
Yesterday I was reminded that It’s often small beautiful moments strung together that make life magical not the lavish parties or other things.