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Day 2354: All we want in this life

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All we all want is to know that we matter to people– that’s what I keep realizing.

 

It’s 11  :  23 AM on day 2354 of my journey towards independence and I managed to pray, have breakfast, read 1 Timothy 4: 7 and learn a new word – Luddite [lud·dite] n. A person opposed to increased industrialization or new technology, and is often someone who is incompetent when using new technology. “He was a luddite that preferred his typewriter over a computer.”

 

This morning I woke up to find that someone had done something really kind in my honour which totally made my day because she thought of me and took it upon herself to act on my behalf (small-big-things always make my heart skip a beat).

 

Day 247

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A good teacher is like a candle – it consumes itself to light the way for others. – Author Unknown

It’s 7: 31 PM on day 247 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself bread and scrambled eggs for breakfast, drink a cup of coffee, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign –no luck – feed myself rice and curry for lunch, tweet about my campaign some more –still no luck :(– continue reading A Purloined Life – the first of two books in Stella Cameron‘s Charmed watch TV and brush my teeth once more.

As you may or may not know after twenty-five years on air The Oprah Winfrey Show is coming to a close and in honour of that I would like to share with you some of the lessons I’ve learned from the most powerful woman in the world. Take a look:

5 Pearls of Wisdom That Oprah Winfrey Has Passed Onto Me

  1. You can change your reality by shifting your perception.
  2. Everything that you seek from others you have to give yourself first.
  3. Nobody has the power to complete you but you.
  4. True fulfilment is achieved by giving rather than consuming.
  5. Everybody wants to feel heard and understood.

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://www.twitter.com/nisha360

if you’ve given to my cause or you can’t give now, please help me by sharing my cause with others. You can tweet about it like my friend Stan Faryna. This is the tweet he uses: @Nisha360 is a brave, smart young woman trying to make a better world for us all. Please help her do an amazing thing. http://bit.ly/hC7vOu

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 245

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You should stop trying to get new people to see the real you and start appreciating those who already do – that’s what I learned today 🙂

It’s 8: 46 PM on day 245 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself a chicken hotdog for breakfast, tweet and Facebook about my Clean Water For All Campaign –no luck – feed myself rice and curry for lunch, tweet about my campaign some more – wow the power of prayer never ceases to amaze me @bonuschief (Frank) made a donation – thanks God and Frank 🙂 – feed myself an orange for dinner and brush my teeth once more.

Today I was reading In the inner circle, there’s no “weird” by Ellen (see excerpt below) – an American mother who has a son with Cerebral Palsy – and I realized that whenever I met new people I was trying to get them to see the real me but no more if you can accept me in the rapper that I’m in then I’ll welcome you with open arms if not, don’t let the door hit you on the way out. Do you try to get new people to like you or choose to hang out with people who already do?

I have been thinking a lot lately about how people see Max. This is not simply because I want him to fit in, so to speak. I ache for people to look beyond his disabilities and see the charming, funny, smart, complex kid I know. I want them to see Max, all of Max. Not just a child with cerebral palsy.

Then I got a grip: In the special needs community, there is no such thing as weird. For the people at the programs we go to, the teachers at Max’s school, the therapists in his life: quirky is the norm. I may have a ways to go to get the world at large to see the wonderfulness of Max. But in the inner circle of special needs that we inhabit, he is who he is—and people usually adore him for it.

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://www.twitter.com/nisha360

if you’ve given to my cause or you can’t give now, please help me by sharing my cause with others. You can tweet about it like my friend Stan Faryna. This is the tweet he uses: @Nisha360 is a brave, smart young woman trying to make a better world for us all. Please help her do an amazing thing. http://bit.ly/hC7vOu

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 176

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The worst thing in the world is not rejection it’s lack of validation – that’s what I learned today 🙂

It’s 9: 13 PM on day 176 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself a chicken polony sandwich  for a snack – it turns out that lent starts on Ash Wednesday for everybody and I  just got the date wrong LOL 🙂 –  tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign for a few hours – no luck  – feed myself rice and curry for lunch, tweet about my campaign some more – still no luck – feed myself butternut  for dinner and watch TV.

Today as I was sitting in front of my laptop raising awareness about my campaign I couldn’t help but remember all the people in my life who didn’t even bother to reply to my donation requests and in that moment I realized that I would rather hear a no than get no response at all because I believe that even when you say nothing you’re saying something and what those people were saying to me was you’re not even worth 5 minutes of my time. Do you ignore people because rejecting them would be too uncomfortable? 🙂