Some people give you what you can handle and a little more – that’s what I keep learning 🙁
It’s 4 : 23 PM on day 635 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself All Bran Flakes for breakfast, publish my Disability of the Day feature, work – I have a new client I will officially start tweeting for the South African Business Schools Association on Monday if you have a Twitter account please follow them @sabsa1 – and feed myself butternut and fish curry for lunch.
This morning my mom and I were talking and somehow we got on the topic of all the wrongs committed against her eventually I got so tired of hearing it that I said please stop I can’t go to the other room and stop listening to your rubbish I mean what was I supposed to do with everything she was telling me it’s not I had a time machine to go back and change the way people treated her it’s unfair that some parents lay their problems on their kids. Do you overburden people with your problems?
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Nisha, i understand that you were annoyed by your mom. But sometimes, when u have someone to pour out your heart to, that is enough to give great relief and comfort to and according to me better than the best advice in the world.
Nisha, i understand that you were annoyed by your mom dumping all her frustration on you. But sometimes, when u have someone to pour out your heart to, that is enough to give great relief and comfort to and according to me better than the best advice in the world. Maybe if you put yourself in her shoes, you might be able to understand her problems better. According to her you are the eldest and most mature among her children to understand her and whom she thinks she can confide everything in. How much ever trivial or silly some other people’s problems are we’ve gotta understand that to everyone person the most important things are their own problems. So next time your mom says something imagine yourself in her situation and perhaps just listening intently to her can give her great comfort. Sometimes its just the time you spare to listen to other people that means a lot to them than big words. Remember nisha, : “Charity begins at home”
I hope my message wasn’t offensive. I just thought i’d tell you my opinion since you are a wonderful person who is eager to improve herself.
It wasn’t offensive at all Isabelle and actually you have a good point sometimes you just need someone to listen God knows I feel a lot better after I vent. Thank you for helping me become a better version of myself I hope to read more of your comments soon 🙂
Nisha:
Thinking of your 635-day learning. “[…]and a little more”.
Have just read about a long-term trauma survivor who tries to reduce the negative impact (which is not predictable!) upon others that she may come into contact with. I understand and appreciate that approach. There is a lot of negative in the world already, and through perception.
If anything, I tend to under-burden people with problems. And this can be a problem too – it’s important to find a happy medium, for yourself, for those who care about you and those you care for.
There are some interesting and entrepreneurial stories from the South African School of Business: I am looking at the one about the Accidental Sommelier. Lots of connections happening.
For some reason, I find myself “visiting” your mother at 20 or 21 years of age.
Butternut and fish curry: yummy!
And not being able to go to the other room, and being trapped by words.
Really glad to see that Dark and Light has been superfunded.
No, I haven’t heard of him/her. I agree with you about keeping a happy medium unfortunately it’s easier said than done. I too sometimes think about what my mom was like at my age. I’m glad that Dark and Light is superfunded too now my friend Shasta can afford to get her son (he’s almost 2 and has Cerebral Palsy) the best therapy.