The worst thing in the world is not rejection it’s lack of validation – that’s what I learned today 🙂
It’s 9: 13 PM on day 176 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself a chicken polony sandwich for a snack – it turns out that lent starts on Ash Wednesday for everybody and I just got the date wrong LOL 🙂 – tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign for a few hours – no luck – feed myself rice and curry for lunch, tweet about my campaign some more – still no luck – feed myself butternut for dinner and watch TV.
Today as I was sitting in front of my laptop raising awareness about my campaign I couldn’t help but remember all the people in my life who didn’t even bother to reply to my donation requests and in that moment I realized that I would rather hear a no than get no response at all because I believe that even when you say nothing you’re saying something and what those people were saying to me was you’re not even worth 5 minutes of my time. Do you ignore people because rejecting them would be too uncomfortable? 🙂
That is a very thoughtful question, Nisha. I can’t recall if I ever have ignored someone on purpose. I think it would bother me, if I did, because I would feel terrible about it. At he same time, saying “No” has always been difficult for me. That said, learning to say an honest “no” when we don’t want to do something or are unable it, is very good for our self esteem. It helps define us.
Thank you for say so… I have to admit I have the same problem… so asked me to review her book on his blog a few months ago and I didn’t have the heart to say no so I just left it alone …I still feel guiilty about it 🙁