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Day 318

Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. – Romans 12: 9

It’s 8: 04 PM on day 318 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, hang out with my mother – she didn’t go to work today because my brother was sick – feed myself Chapati and chicken curry for lunch, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign – no luck – go visit my brother in hospital – he’d been wheezing the whole week and we finally took him to the hospital where the doctor decided to keep him until he’s chest clears truth-be-told I think he’s having a ball watching all this favorite TV shows with my mother to keep him company – watch TV and feed myself rice and curry for dinner.

A couple of days ago I read Slams against people with special needs…and one bit of awesome on Love That Max and I like Ellen – blogger at Love That Max – was furious with a commenter on News Aggregator who posted a picture of a little girl who has Down Syndrome with a caption underneath it that read I can count to potato although I didn’t know quite what to say to the media about how they portrayed “disabled” people until today HOW DARE YOU those of us have “disabilities” have to work twice as hard and twice as long to accomplish the simplest of tasks and quite frankly we don’t need to open magazines to find that everybody’s laughing at us and not with us furthermore if you are an editor of a magazine that allows tasteless comments to be published in your magazine I will come after you I maybe a small fish in a big pound but you will hear me when I roar. Do you hate what is evil but fail to do anything about it when you see it around you?

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

If you’ve given to my cause or you can’t give now, please help me by sharing my cause with others. You can tweet about it like my friend Stan Faryna. This is the tweet he uses: @Nisha360 is a brave, smart young woman trying to make a better world for us all. Please help her do an amazing thing. http://bit.ly/hC7vOu

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 313

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Ninety-nine percent of the population is kind and caring it’s just the other one percent that are selfish and egotistical – that’s what I learning today.

It’s 8: 33 PM on day 313 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, donate £7.36 to Sophie Brown’s cause – Sophie visited South-West Uganda with her mom and she was so touched by the plight of the children there that she started raising money to building a classroom I LOVE her she’s a girl after my own heart 🙂 – make 40 sandwiches for our housekeeper’s neighborhood (if you have no idea what I’m talking about refer to Virginia’s Sandwich Run) – a HUGE shoutout to my baby brother – he’s 10 turning 11 next month – for helping me make the sandwiches today I am SO SO SO proud of you buddy today you became a real-life HERO! 🙂 – feed myself chicken biryani for lunch, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign – no luck – prepare my Kid of the Week feature for tomorrow – this week’s Kid of the Week is 2011 Miss Teen Maryland In’tl. 2 time Presidential Volunteer Service Award. Owner M.O.D.E.L.S. (Making Ongoing Differences in Every Life through Service) Margo Huffman feed myself sweet potatoes and plain yoghurt mixed with onions and chilies for dinner and brush my teeth once more.

Yesterday I was watching (TV)⁵ – radio on TV – and they featured some of their DJs who were part of Bikers for Mandela – a group of South African celebrities who travelled across the country spending sixty-seven minutes in service at each one of their stops – and not thirty minutes after that MTV’s My Super Sweet Sixteen – a show about teenagers and how much time and money they will spend on their sweet sixteen parties – aired my point is the world is screwed up and we should learn how to distinguish between the great and the down-right idiotic. Are you part of the ninety-nine percent or the one percent?

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 305

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You are responsible for the energy that you create for yourself and you’re responsible for the energy that you bring to others. – Oprah Winfrey

It’s 7: 55 PM on day 305 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself a banana for breakfast, watch TV, feed myself rice and curry for lunch, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign – I decided not to spent too much time tweeting today because my brother was complaining that I was being selfish with the laptop I tried to explain to him that I was trying to change the world but he’s ten I doubt he cared LOL 🙂 – spend some time with my family and brush my teeth once more.

Yesterday on the last episode of her show Oprah said all life is energy and for the life of me I didn’t know she meant until this morning when I woke up and realized that the feeling you give to someone even before you say a word or vice-versa was energy which explained why I felt (and still feel) drained when I’m with my father, sorrowful when my I’m with my mother and resentful when I’m with my siblings. Is the energy you create for yourself and bring to others consistent with the vision you have for your life?

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 303

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You see there’s always another story, another side to every coin
And how you see your circumstance is all about a choice.
– From the song Jesus Calling by 33 Miles

It’s 8: 52 PM on day 303 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself toast, eggs, sausages and tomatoes for breakfast, watch TV, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign – no luck – feed myself rice and curry for lunch, tweet some more about my campaign – today was a productive day I asked some of my friends to write blog posts about me and set up an interview 🙂 – read South African woman uses social media to build well for people without clean water – the published version of interview I did with @JeniseFryatt – thanks Jenise you did a GREAT job 🙂 – answer Nicky’s interview questions – I asked my friend Nicky to write a blog post about me and my campaign on The Nicky Blog and she suggested an interview instead and I have to say the girl knows her stuff 🙂 – feed myself Batura and chicken curry for dinner and brush my teeth once more.

Yesterday we visited a friend and just before we left she said Neethu – my sister – good luck with the decisions you have to make – referring to the decision she has to make about what she wants to be after she matriculates next year – and then she turned to me and said as if to include me in the conversation Nisha you must help her with those decisions and in that moment I realized that people would always perceive me as my sister’s aid and not as a person of my own just because of my disability and the life I chose which I have now decided is not necessarily a bad thing because I have the element of surprise on my side. Do you choose to see every circumstance as a blessing no matter what it appears to be?

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 290

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You should mourn the life you will never have – that’s what I learned today.

It’s 9: 08 PM on day 290 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself an egg sandwich for breakfast tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign – Bonnie (@Bonnie67) made another donation – thanks Bonnie 🙂 – tweet about my campaign some more – no further luck 🙁 – watch TV, feed myself custard for lunch, read 10 Reasons My Son’s Cerebral Palsy Is Awesome – a guest post on Love That Max written by Shasta over at Outrageous Fortune – it was a refreshing blog post in that she took everything bad about her son’s Cerebral Palsy and made it good 🙂 – feed myself rice and curry for dinner and brush my teeth once more.

This morning my mother asked my father if my sister didn’t need to apply for her license and that just drove me to tears not because I was jealous of my sister getting her license but because I was sad that I would never get mine and since I didn’t want my sister to feel guilty for being able-bodied when she woke up and asked me why I was crying I blamed it on PMS and held back the rest of my tears until I was alone in the bathroom. Is the life you could have had an elephant in the room or simply a dream that you’ve let go of?
Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 283

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Being a parent is about allowing your children to be who they truly are– that’s what I learned today 🙂

It’s 8: 58 PM on day 283 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself an egg sandwich for breakfast, read Love That Max, Chasing Rainbow and Outrageous Fortune – the first two blogs I read I’ve read a few times while I had never even heard of the third although I have to admit it was really heart-warming to read about this woman’s appreciation of her husband before I read that post I really thought that marriage was just another form of imprisonment but after reading that I’m beginning to change my mind 🙂 – watch TV, feed myself rice and curry for lunch, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign – no luck but I am hopeful because someone promised to make a donation later today 🙂 – feed myself grilled fish, potatoes and salad for dinner, and brush my teeth once more.

Today after my brother left for school in tears my mother came into my room and said I should stop asking him what J’s – his friend’s – marks are maybe that’s why he’s sad and in that moment I was SO angry that I said you love your children for what they can do and not who they are to which she responded if that was true I wouldn’t love you which suffice to say hurt my feelings. Do you love your children for who they truly are or for what they can do to bolster your image in society’s eyes?

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 275

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One should see the world, and see himself as a scale with an equal balance of good and evil. When he does one good deed the scale is tipped to the good – he and the world is saved. When he does one evil deed the scale is tipped to the bad – he and the world is destroyed. – Maimonides

It’s 7: 29 PM on day 275 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself a banana for breakfast, make sandwiches for Virginia’s Sandwich Run – I decided to make the sandwiches during the week because I never know if our housekeeper will show up on Saturdays anyway I would like to take this opportunity to thank my sister for helping out today … I love you sweetheart you are truly a masterpiece in the making 🙂 – tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign – no luck 🙁 – watch TV, feed myself rice and curry for lunch, watch some more TV feed myself a banana for dinner and brush my teeth once more.

A few months ago I promised myself that I would donate 25% of my earning to charity when I started earning some money and although I can hear my father in the back of my head saying are you nuts you can’t give away 25% of your money this is only your second paycheck I will stay true to the promise I made to myself because at the end of the day if all we do is take and take and take some more there will come a day when the world will have nothing left to give. Are you tipping the scale to the good by giving to the world more than you take?

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 260

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Fairest and best adorned is she whose clothing is humility. – James Montgomery

It’s 7: 01 PM on day 260 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign –no luck – read Jude: The Diary of a baby and a stroke and visit Emily’s Smile Boxes – there is a tie that binds both the blog and website which I didn’t initially know about Jenn who writes the blog is also the mother of Emily – the founder of Emily’s Smile Boxes 🙂 – feed myself a polony sandwich for breakfast, watch TV, feed myself rice and curry for lunch, watch some more TV and feed myself banana for dinner.

As you know I am very independent in spirit which is why I find it extremely difficult to ask people for help in any aspect of my life but today I realized that even superheroes need help once in a while so I am asking you with the upmost humility to write about my campaign on your blog or website (see guidelines below).Do you fear asking for help because you are afraid of becoming co-dependent?

Your post must include:

An introductory paragraph about how you came to know of me and my campaign and just below it you should copy and paste Who I Am – a blog post I wrote introducing myself.

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

if you’ve given to my cause or you can’t give now, please help me by sharing my cause with others. You can tweet about it like my friend Stan Faryna. This is the tweet he uses: @Nisha360 is a brave, smart young woman trying to make a better world for us all. Please help her do an amazing thing. http://bit.ly/hC7vOu

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 252

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You can turn all the negativity in your life into fuel – that’s what I learned today 🙂

It’s 7: 07 PM on day 252 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, practice wheeling myself around – it took me two hours to get from the center of the dining room to the kitchen but that’s okay I’ll practise every day and get a little further each time 🙂 – feed myself chicken hotdogs for breakfast, watch TV, feed myself rice and curry for lunch and tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign –no luck –

Today while I was practising how to get around the house by myself my hands were red and my arms felt like they were about to fall off and I wanted to quit with every fibre off my being but in that moment I decided to do something I’ve never done before close my eyes and think about all the people in my life who have hurt me – my father who is ashamed of me, my mother who constantly refers to me as “sick” and my sister who says with attitude I’m sorry you ended up in a wheelchair every time I tell her that I’m having a bad day – and before I knew it I was two steps away from the kitchen feeling grateful for the fact that I didn’t quit because I realized that I was all I had. Is all the negativity that surrounds you poisoning you or nourishing you?

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://www.twitter.com/nisha360

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 249

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I am unique in that I see the best in everybody – that’s what I learned today 🙂

It’s 7: 13 PM on day 249 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself a polony sandwich for breakfast, make sandwiches for the people in our housekeeper’s neighbourhood (if you have no idea what I am talking about refer to ‘Day 184’) – we made 3 loaves worth of sandwiches and sent her home with 2 extras loaves we didn’t have time to make sandwiches out of all 5 loaves but it’s really ok life’s too short to sweat over the small stuff 🙂 – feed myself a banana for lunch, finish preparing my Kid of the Week feature for Sunday, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign –no luck – go to physiotherapy – I was so stiff I didn’t exercise for three weeks I vow to exercise every day for the rest of my life I know I’ve said that before but this time it’s for real 🙂 – watch TV and feed myself rice and curry for dinner.

Today I woke up and asked my mother if she could buy five loaves of bread so that I could make sandwiches for the people in my housekeeper’s community – I usually did it on Saturday but Nandipha – our housekeeper – told me she wouldn’t be coming to work on Saturday because she had to attend her cousin’s funeral – and the first words out of my mother’s mouth were she probably eats them followed by my sister who said how do you know she doesn’t sell them and in that moment I remember feeling so offended on Nandipha’s behalf because here she was at twenty-one years of age coming to work and helping me in spite of the fact that her one-year-old son had died just a few weeks ago and all my mother could say was she probably eats them. Do you choose to see the worst in people at every opportunity?

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://www.twitter.com/nisha360

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!