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Life’s Purposes and 2023 Goals

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“The great danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark.” –Michelangelo

Today is New Year’s Day and with that comes new hopes, new opportunities and new goals. Check out my life’s purpose and 2023 Goals below:

My Life’s Purposes

  1. Fill the world with kindness and love
  2. Make a difference – level the playing field for people who were born with the cards stacked against them
  3. Change perceptions about differently-abled people

2023 Goals

  1. Continue to be kind, honest, generous, grateful, loyal and filled with wonderment
  2. Every day be the best SuperSidekick to Superhero Catherine Constantinides (she’s the best, most hardworking real-life Superhero I’ve ever met she totally deserves me forever  and no matter what else I’m doing in life I will always be here for her)
  3. Maintain and strengthen my deep friendship with Michelle Rielly  
  4. Sign up 5-10 cot guardians for Breath of Life  and additionally  raise at least R32 000 (Breath of Life is a place of safety for vulnerable babies here in my city I JUST LOVE THEIR WORK)
  5. Be a great support to Abigail Boshoff
  6. Focus on wellness – have good diet, exercise, good sleep, gratitude and get more sun
  7. Go on a boat cruise here in East London with Southern Cross Cruises -hopefully see whales or dolphins
  8. Practice Patience
  9. Become financially free
  10. Teach kids and adults worldwide that Different Is COOL
  11. Continue to raise awareness about the Western Sahara conflict – the Western Sahara has been illegally occupied by Morocco since 1975 due to the fact that it’s rich in natural and though the UN promised a referendum in 1991 it has yet to come to pass meanwhile half of the Saharawi People have been living in the refugee camps in Algeria since 1975
  12. Choose people who choose me
  13. Read 24+ books
  14. Plant 1-5 trees
  15. Do 32+ good deeds

(Note: Goals are subject to change with time and that’s ok because I will change with time)

My 2022 Life Purposes and Goals in Review

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“Make measurable progress in reasonable time.” – Jim Rohn

As we near the end of 2022 it is again time to review the goals I set at the beginning of the year

My 2022 Life Purposes and Goals in Review

My Life’s Purposes

  1. Fill the world with kindness and love [did my best]
  2. Make a difference – level the playing field for people who were born with the cards stacked against them [did my best]
  3. Change perceptions about differently-abled people [did my best]

2022 Goals

  1. Continue to be kind, honest, generous, grateful, loyal and filled with wonderment [ self-assessment: I did my best – I give myself an A+]
  2. Every day be the best SuperSidekick to Superhero Catherine Constantinides (she’s the best, most hardworking real-life Superhero I’ve ever met she totally deserves me forever  and no matter what else I’m doing in life I will always be here for her) [ again self-assessment: I knocked it out of the park I’m so proud of myself– I give myself an A+]
  1. Raise at least R31 000 for Breath of Life   [ self-assessment: I did the math and  I raised a minimum of R33 600 ]
  2. Eat healthily and Exercise – reduce sugar by a lot and exercise back muscles [ self-assessment: I failed]
  3. Sleep better [ self-assessment: failed]
  4. Spend more time outside [ self-assessment: failed]
  5. Practice Patience [ self-assessment: failed epically]
  6. Make a steady income [ self-assessment: failed – my priority was making a difference]
  7. Teach kids and adults worldwide that Different Is COOL [ self-assessment: I tried]
  8. Continue to raise awareness about the Western Sahara conflict – the Western Sahara has been illegally occupied by Morocco since 1975 due to the fact that it’s rich in natural and though the UN promised a referendum in 1991 it has yet to come to pass meanwhile half of the Saharawi People have been living in the refugee camps in Algeria since 1975 [ self-assessment: I tried]
  9. Choose people who choose me [ self-assessment: it’s a work-in-progress]
  10. Read 12+ books [read 7 books]
  11. Plant 1-5 trees [failed – no trees planted]
  12. Do 31+ good deeds [ self-assessment: I don’t count my good deeds but if I did I’m sure over the course of this year I have done 31 or more]

Officially off the grid thanks to In House Solar

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The future is green energy, sustainability, renewable energy.” – Arnold Schwarzenegger

As of yesterday, my house is solar-powered I’m so excited. The whole process took 4 days – step 1 was the installation of the battery and the invertor; step 2 was the mounting of 12 solar panels and step 3 was the wiring of the panels. A HUGE thanks to Warren Dixon and his team at In House Solar for their professional and affordable service – our road to green was made easy and exciting thanks to their exceptional service.

If you live in East London and want to go green Warren and his team at In House Solar are the people you need to call. Contact Warren on 071 415 3981  

Warren and his team preparing the roof for panel installation
The team at In House Solar working hard installing panels for us
Panels installed
More panels – In House Solar installed a total of 12 Panels for us
Now for the wiring
And we’re officially green – thanks to In House Solar

Celebrations and other feelings

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The only thing that’s constant in life is change – that’s what I keep learning

On April 30th 2022 my sister got married and thus now I have a new and very kind brother-in-law (I won’t be sharing any pictures or videos it was not my wedding and just because i’ll probably never get married I won’t use that as an excuse to violate people’s privacy) as my sister walked down the aisle to her new life I could literally feel our paths diverge I was so happy for her but also heartbroken for myself but as they say the only thing constant in life is change (Neethu, if you are reading this please know I do love you and Vineeth and i’m so happy you are married so happy but I have personal feelings that are separate from that please don’t think I’m sad because you’re married, I’m not, it’s just i’m a little lonely and that’s ok I’ll find a way to manage)

To be alone powerfully

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To be alone powerfully is something I’m learning

It’s been four months since my siblings went off in different provinces which sort of makes me an only child again (I sort of feel bad that this is as close to an empty nest that my parents will ever get) but I’m making the best of my alone time I read 6 books and I’ve spent a lot of time at Breath of Life and enjoyed my other pursuits. Being alone powerfully will take time and practice and I’m here for it.

I Feel Blah

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However I feel is ok – that’s what I’m learning

This year has been somewhat difficult so far (a mix of highs and heartbreak) thankfully physically i’m pain-free but there’s nothing quite like being a first born and the last child still left in the house I love my parents and i’m grateful they house me (I can’t move out because i need too much physical help and even if i was to move out and live with an aide the aides here are not professional they show up they feel like it and that wouldn’t work with my life) so I stay with my dependable parents…everybody else is married with kids and I’m happy for them but I always feel like I’m watching a moving I’ll never be a part of I hope there are enough good people in the world who will include me in their adventures of their own accord…I feel blah and that’s ok (for now)

[Book review] The Midnight Library by Matt Haig

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“I think it is easy to imagine there are easier paths,’ she said, realizing something for the first time. ‘But maybe there are no easy paths. There are just paths. In one life, I might be married. In another, I might be working in a shop. I might have said yes to this cute guy who asked me out for a coffee. In another I might be researching glaciers in the Arctic Circle. In another, I might be an Olympic swimming champion. Who knows? Every second of every day we are entering a new universe. And we spend so much time wishing our lives were different, comparing ourselves to other people and to other versions of ourselves, when really most lives contain degrees of good and degrees of bad.”

― Matt Haig, The Midnight Library

Yesterday I finished reading The Midnight Library by Matt Haig the book centers around Nora Seed who after attempting to kill herself finds herself in a library full of books, books which contain all the other lives she could have lived and all the other versions of herself she could have been…the book is a journey like no other filled with so much wisdom and a poignant reminder to make the best of the lives we have. If I had to rate the book I would give it a 10/10  (yes, it is that good)  

Embracing New Chapters

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Life is change – that’s what I keep reminding myself

January has been full of change my siblings have moved the house is so quite I can hear a pin drop it’s really strange but I’ll be more than ok I will fill my life with reading, writing, time in nature and volunteering it’s going to be great… I don’t want to hold anyone back everybody must go and live their own lives. The meaning of love is not to possess.

Life’s Purposes and 2022 Goals

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“Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end.” – Seneca

Today is New Year’s Day and with that comes new hopes, new opportunities and new goals. Check out my life’s purpose and 2022 Goals below:

My Life’s Purposes

  1. Fill the world with kindness and love
  2. Make a difference – level the playing field for people who were born with the cards stacked against them
  3. Change perceptions about differently-abled people

2022 Goals

  1. Continue to be kind, honest, generous, grateful, loyal and filled with wonderment
  2. Every day be the best SuperSidekick to Superhero Catherine Constantinides (she’s the best, most hardworking real-life Superhero I’ve ever met she totally deserves me forever  and no matter what else I’m doing in life I will always be here for her)
  3. Raise at least R31 000 for Breath of Life   (Breath of Life is a place of safety for vulnerable babies here in my city I JUST LOVE THEIR WORK)
  4. Eat healthily and Exercise – reduce sugar by a lot and exercise back muscles
  5. Sleep better
  6. Spend more time outside
  7. Practice Patience
  8. Make a steady income
  9. Teach kids and adults worldwide that Different Is COOL
  10. Continue to raise awareness about the Western Sahara conflict – the Western Sahara has been illegally occupied by Morocco since 1975 due to the fact that it’s rich in natural and though the UN promised a referendum in 1991 it has yet to come to pass meanwhile half of the Saharawi People have been living in the refugee camps in Algeria since 1975
  11. Choose people who choose me
  12. Read 12+ books
  13. Plant 1-5 trees
  14. Do 31+ good deeds

(Note: Goals are subject to change with time and that’s ok because I will change with time)

My 2021 Life Purposes and Goals in Review

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“Make measurable progress in reasonable time.” – Jim Rohn

As we near the end of 2021 it is again time to review the goals I set at the beginning of the year

My 2020 Life Purposes and Goals in Review

My Life’s Purposes

  1. Fill the world with kindness and love [did my best]
  2. Make a difference – level the playing field for people who were born with the cards stacked against them [did my best]
  3. Change perceptions about differently-abled people [did my best]

2021 Goals

  1. Continue to be kind, honest, generous, grateful, loyal and filled with wonderment [did my best – give myself an A]
  2. Every day be the best SuperSidekick to Superhero Catherine Constantinides (she’s the best, most hardworking real-life Superhero I’ve ever met she totally deserves me forever  and no matter what else I’m doing in life I will always be here for her) [did my best – give myself an A++]
  3. Raise R300 000 for the Miss Earth South Africa leadership programme in honour of my 30th year of life – The work they do truly has an impact on people and planet I TRULY LOVE IT [not achieved because other things came up]
  4. Continue to do more for Breath of Life [raised R16 680+ it’s not as much as I would have liked but better than nothing]
  5. Eat healthily [failed]
  6. Practice Patience [failed]
  7. Sleep better [failed]
  8. Spend more time outside on sunny days [did on some days]
  9. Make a steady income [failed]
  10. Teach kids and adults worldwide that Different Is COOL [tried]
  11. Continue to raise awareness about the Western Sahara conflict – the Western Sahara has been illegally occupied by Morocco since 1975 due to the fact that it’s rich in natural and though the UN promised a referendum in 1991 it has yet to come to pass meanwhile half of the Saharawi People have been living in the refugee camps in Algeria since 1975 [did my best]
  12. Choose people who choose me [I don’t know how to measure this]
  13. Read 12+ books [failed – not even one book read so disappointed in myself ]
  14. Plant or have 30 trees planted – 1 for every year of my life [failed]
  15. Do 30+ good deeds – for every year of my life [I did not keep count but I’m sure I did at least 30 good deeds]