There have been many books written about love, many movies made about how love is supposed be and many songs written but, I still found myself confused as to what love really was – until today that is.

I am Christian and even though I know that not everyone is there is a passage in the Bible that beautifully explains what love would be in a perfect world. “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves.”— 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

I’ve always prided myself on my ability to love perfectly until one day a few weeks ago when  I found out my cousin – who is the closest thing to an older sister that I’ve ever had – was getting married – that night I was filled with this great sense of loss and sadness – not because I didn’t want her to be happy – but because I knew that once she got married things would never be the same again between us and today morning while I was lying on my bed and staring at the calling I suddenly realized that love is allowing the other person to grow into themselves even if that means that they won’t be as prominent in the landscape of your life as they  once were  and one day when the shoe is on the other  foot it is my greatest hope that she will love me enough to do the same for me.